Somewhere along the way third-base coach Jerry Royster was tossed, too, which meant by the end of it all, bench coach Tim Bogar was managing and coaching third.
Ross thought home-plate umpire Alfonso Marquez called him out on a slider to end the eighth inning that was way too low, and Ross lost it instantly. He was down 0-2 in the count against Yanks closer Rafael Soriano before battling back to 3-2, and he represented the tying run with the Sox trailing by two.
"Yeah, Cody was really upset," said Valentine. "I was just doing everything I could to get Cody away from him. He should be upset. He's battling his butt off, and he's representing the tying run and winds up getting called out. So he's upset. He's trying, he's trying hard."
James Loney, who was on second base, got a good look at the pitch.
"I didn't think it was [a strike], but in those situations the umpire has got to make a split-second call," Loney said.
Ross, who's always there to talk to reporters after games, didn't stick around Wednesday. In his nine seasons in the Majors, he had been ejected just once before: June 9, 2008, with the Marlins.
Valentine wasn't ejected until a couple of minutes later. As Sox left-hander Andrew Miller warmed for the top of the ninth, Valentine went back out to talk to Marquez, and that quickly escalated. Valentine's been ejected six times in 2012 -- the most by any Sox player or manager in a season. Terry Francona reached five ejections twice.
"I didn't argue when I was out on the field [the first time] because I pulled both my hamstrings trying to keep Cody away from the umpire," said Valentine.
Jarrod Saltalamacchia, who was on-deck at the time, led off the next inning with a solo home run against Soriano and had a great view of the earlier fireworks, too.
"He's not quitting either, he wants to win," said Saltalamacchia of Valentine. "He's taken a lot of scrutiny, a lot of the bad publicity. He wants to win. He doesn't want to finish the season on a sour note either. Situation like that when it didn't look like it was a strike, I didn't look at it, but on deck it didn't look like a strike, it's frustrating. We got a chance to win the game, and I know he was frustrated as well."
Ross lifted the bat over his head as though he would slam it down, then turned to yell at Marquez as Royster quickly ran over. Valentine, also yelling from the dugout, tried to get in between Marquez and Ross. As Ross finally walked away, he tried to push by his manager for a few more screams at Marquez.